This post is probably none of your business because you’re not my husband or child.
This post is probably none of your business because you don’t need to know why, at this present time, I’m not going back to work next year.
And this is probably none of your business because you don’t need to know or understand our financial situation.
For some reason though, some people do think those things are their business. That’s fine, they can ask, and I can choose not to tell. But what I do mind, is when I decide to go to a local cafe for lunch, after Mr.T has done an excellent job putting up with me shopping, and the cafe owner asks about the above issues. She asks, I give vague answers, and I’m shocked at the responses in return like:
“Your baby should fit around your life, you shouldn’t fit around theirs” Do people actually SAY that!?
“If your baby is clingy, and you don’t let them be without you, then you are spoiling them” As above!?
“You should just go back to work for half days” Yes, because I can walk into my tiny workplace and demand they create a job for me that fits into my life.
I don’t know this lady. She doesn’t know that I’ve only just started to sleep more than one 3 hour stretch a night and that as of a week ago, I was leaving Tom’s room every evening in tears due to the pain in my back. She doesn’t know that there are no part-time jobs available in my work place and I choose not to leave my child 5 days a week in the hands of strangers (I had a child so I could raise him – not somebody else). She also doesn’t know that I have no family in the area who can help.
Oh, and she doesn’t know I blog, and it’s going really well and I’m looking into running a business alongside it in 2013.
What she probably assumes is that I do not want to let my baby go, that I am smothering him, and that I just walk around shopping and going to cafes all day. (I do NOT).
I walked in for some lunch, followed by a piece of banana bread. I did not ask for a side order of judgement.
Do you get hassled about not going back to work? How do you handle it?
You don’t have to answer that if you don’t want to. It’s not really any of my business.